Hurt by betrayal

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Hurt by betrayal

Post by Non » Sun Jun 25, 2017 3:56 am

Some close friends that I met offline basically betrayed me and now I feel terrible. Life was so interesting, I joined a Facebook messenger chat with people from all over the world , we basically learned more about our personalities and poured our hearts out. Then someone came who during discussions if a disagreement arose over the personality theory, not personal , they would privately message others about me. Soon after about 6 months of a very life changing experience, people started acting differently towards me , I then found out that they were slandering my name behind my back. Then after confronting everyone they all took her side and completely invalidated me , saying her behavior was normal, even though she never brought any of her problems to me, so I couldn't fix anything. Worst part is is we got so close we were going to meet in real life and now I feel like I shouldn't even go anymore and even if things changed and resolutions were made , things will never be the same. What advice do you have ?

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Re: Hurt by betrayal

Post by Entity » Sun Jun 25, 2017 5:59 am

I'm sorry that that happened, and I'm sorry that I have very little advice. I would assume that such a large scale betrayal would be incredibly jarring. I have minimal experience with even one person betraying me, but in the end, I willingly left him. So, I have no advice except to keep pushing forward. There are still people out there who won't betray you, even though it might seem like they'll be hard to find.
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Re: Hurt by betrayal

Post by crow » Sun Jun 25, 2017 6:05 am

Non wrote:
Sun Jun 25, 2017 3:56 am
Some close friends that I met offline...

Is that really what you meant to say? What is the significance of mentioning that you met these friends 'offline'?
I'm old, so maybe I don't get it...

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Re: Hurt by betrayal

Post by Entity » Sun Jun 25, 2017 2:23 pm

crow wrote:
Sun Jun 25, 2017 6:05 am
Non wrote:
Sun Jun 25, 2017 3:56 am
Some close friends that I met offline...

Is that really what you meant to say? What is the significance of mentioning that you met these friends 'offline'?
I'm old, so maybe I don't get it...
I think it's a reference to the fact that Non met the friends on the Internet, and the fact that they were close to meeting up in real life indicates a more serious level of friendship. The fact that it was offline and not online is sort of a colloquial mistake where it's closer to 'off the line'. I'm guilty of saying it that way.
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