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Do you cry?

Post by Healer379 » Sun Sep 27, 2015 2:49 pm

Stereotypes... Do you cry often? In public?

Until recently, I haven't cried from in emotion in 16 years.

And even now, I cry far and few in between, for a very short amount of time.

I went to some type of energy reader this year, and she told me that the reason I have headaches (above my left eye) is because I don't cry.

Many times I feel sad or in pain and I just can't cry. I want to, but I don't know how.

any advice is welcome:)
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by BabyDragon » Sun Sep 27, 2015 3:50 pm

I'm an INTJ and I cried last month when my kitten got run over by a car. It just means I'm human.

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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Entity » Sun Sep 27, 2015 4:45 pm

Holy shit, BabyDragon, that's the saddest thing I've heard all month! I cry a ton, and even more often do I feel sad. I refrain from crying in public, because that would make me have to explain everything to everyone.
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Healer379 » Sun Sep 27, 2015 5:19 pm

Entity wrote:Holy shit, BabyDragon, that's the saddest thing I've heard all month! I cry a ton, and even more often do I feel sad. I refrain from crying in public, because that would make me have to explain everything to everyone.

When you cry... Do you need to think about what's going on... And mentally talk to yourself about how sad it is, or its natural?

Last time I cried, it was in public. Lol. I felt quite stupid... It was about 6 months ago, in an airport. Every possible thing that could go wrong did... Extreme frustration I guess... Almost had no control over it. Was like a waterfall:)
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Entity » Sun Sep 27, 2015 5:30 pm

When crying, I always think these things. How did this happen, why, why, WHY is it happening to me, and why can't I fix it? It's extreme pessimism, and the sadness comes naturally. I repeat my complaints within my head because I don't feel like actually talking.
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by potatotoro » Sun Sep 27, 2015 7:41 pm

I usually have a pretty good control over my emotions and it takes a lot to make me cry when i don't want to.But if nothings stopping me from crying, like if i'm by myself or watching a slightly sad movie, I cry easily.inside out was to much for me D;

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Re: Do you cry?

Post by crow » Sun Sep 27, 2015 9:30 pm

Rarely, tears will run down my cheeks, but emotion is something I have little time for.
I feel, very intensely, but I see no reason to consciously display it.
Our beloved hare died two weeks ago, and it was completely unexpected.
Love comes, love goes, and there's nothing to be done about it.

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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Healer379 » Wed Sep 30, 2015 1:02 am

crow wrote:Rarely, tears will run down my cheeks, but emotion is something I have little time for.
I feel, very intensely, but I see no reason to consciously display it.
Our beloved hare died two weeks ago, and it was completely unexpected.
Love comes, love goes, and there's nothing to be done about it.

Do you find that unvalidated enotion presents itself in ugly ways later?
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by crow » Wed Sep 30, 2015 2:54 am

Maybe for some. My wife and I are practiced in the art of being truly alive, in contrast to the monkey display of most humans.

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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Healer379 » Wed Sep 30, 2015 4:34 am

crow wrote:Maybe for some. My wife and I are practiced in the art of being truly alive, in contrast to the monkey display of most humans

What do you mean by that?

I don't believe the answer to understanding/expressing emotion lies in letting loose all the way, always. (Not necessarily an answer to your monkey referral)

The balance is specific and delicate, where trust is the springboard for private, healthy, controlled growth.
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by crow » Wed Sep 30, 2015 5:44 am

Well, that's woman stuff. I do what is necessary, when it's necessary. My wife can't stand most women, and I can't say I blame her.
Truth to tell, so many men are so feminized by now, there's not a lot of difference. Excess estrogen will do that. Along with touchy feely new-age mind-rot.
I have no idea what you meant with all those words you've used.
It's really much simpler than that.
Disciplined emotions are the foolproof answer to the modern plague of depression.
Get yourself under control once, and it's minimal further effort to maintain it.

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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Healer379 » Wed Sep 30, 2015 1:47 pm

Mmm.

What I meant was that it's important to express, because it rids the emotion as opposed to leaving it to fester silently and present itself in the form of anger/depression/irritation later on.

I don't think gender makes a difference actually. A healthy person should be able to express under certain circumstances (what I meant by trust).
In my opinion, that is controlled emotion. For certain times and places, in certain measures, and in a thought out way.

What did you mean by control?
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Entity » Wed Sep 30, 2015 1:51 pm

Okay, I can't help but think of Professor Snape saying, "Control your emotions. Discipline your mind!" Thankfully, crow, you're not as mopey as Snape.
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Healer379 » Wed Sep 30, 2015 1:52 pm

For the record;)
I am not so much for touch either.
And my original question was how to allow myself to cry when I feel pain, not the opposite
But its an interesting discussion nonetheless:)
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Re: Do you cry?

Post by Healer379 » Wed Sep 30, 2015 1:53 pm

Omg I love Snape:)
His role in the story. Secret hero, human emotion of jealousy that he overcame for the end goal of truth
All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

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